Sometimes I feel like everyone around me is happy 24/7.
It starts with scrolling through my social network feeds where pictures of the yummiest food, the coolest clothes, the fittest and healthiest bodies or the most exotic travel destinations are popping up everywhere. Being a rational-thinking person (ok, no, I am not, but I should try to be) definitely helps to understand that - especially on sites like Facebook or Instagram - people only share the sweet sides of their lives. And that‘s totally okay, you don‘t have to tell the whole world when you have your period, the worst cramps and feel like a bloated walrus - that‘s your private thing which isn‘t something the boy you met drunk at a party in Barcelona is supposed to know.
But I want to talk about being honest with people who are your friends in real life. I feel like even when I am in a smaller group of people, we still pretend that our lives are wonderful and that we are all happy all the time. Don‘t get me wrong here - I am super-happy (most-used word here ;)) for everyone who lives a content life and I don‘t want to tell anyone to pretend to have problems just to make me feel better.
However, I think it is hard to admit not only to others, but also to yourself that you are not smiling all the time and that your life doesn‘t look like an ad for cereals when everyone talks about their great lives and how happy they are every single hour of the day. It is totally normal to feel down and sad every once in a while, it is normal to doubt decisions and paths you have taken in life - but we also need to be able to talk about this. We need to find a place where we can open up without feeling uncomfortable or like a „loser“. I have made the experience that when you start and say: „hey, to be completely honest with you - not everything is going so well at the moment“, people who are your true friends won‘t think „haha, her life is worse than mine“, no they will listen to you and this will make you feel better. It also happened a lot of times that when one person started to open up, others followed and it all ended in something like a (very liberating) self-helping group therapy. ;)Please bear in mind that I want you all to be happy and when you are and everything is just fine then it‘s wonderful - nevertheless, it is totally normal that not everything is always working out in your life and that there are times that are just not so Carrie-in-Manhattan-like and we should be able to be honest and admit that instead of always beating each other with who has a better life. Remember, real friendships aren‘t only there for the good times.
Have a nice day!